Saturday, 15 August 2015

Humility – an ordinary word but a rare trait

Is there any characteristic of mankind that can match humility? Is being humble something out of reach for the common man like you and I or can it be developed? Today let’s contemplate on this.

What does humility mean?
My interpretation is that humility is the mother of all virtues. True humility is not only a desirable trait but in my opinion it is a divine quality. But what exactly is it? In a typical scenario, the standard meaning of humility is to voluntarily put yourself behind so that others can move ahead and shine or to intentionally lower yourself in order to lift others up for their benefit. The reason behind such act or idea should not be to gain recognition or admiration and at the same time it should not be offered with disappointment and remorse. If it is contaminated by any of these factors, then though it may remain a good deed, it cannot be considered as a true expression of humility. I urge you to think of what it means to you and come up with your own understanding of humility.

Are we qualified to examine this quality?
I agree that you and I can learn a lot and become a better person as we gain more life experience. However, humility is much more than mere manners, ethics and moral. I believe improving and advancing ourselves is achievable only when we make a mindful commitment to examine our thoughts, experiences and actions, and then by trying to understand it in segments with impartiality. I am not suggesting that by thinking and talking about this, we would improve on the humble side of us. But by raising our awareness on this, we could then move forward incorporating these into our day-to-day thoughts and actions. On the other hand, if we dismiss this open dialogue with ourselves, then we are indirectly telling our subconscious mind that we have no desire to improve and we have given up on nurturing humility in us. I think even if we are defeated, we still remain a winner when it comes to having tried. Therefore, personally I am up for this challenge and I propose that you do take out time and conduct a thorough biopsy of all things humility. By saying so I do not mean that you need to do any practical exercise or academic research but the exercise and research within your internal self is the intrinsic notion. Be cautious that this may bring to surface our hidden ego (a thought for another day.) Note that humility lies on the fine line between our ego self and our true self.

I perceive humility to be on three different levels:

(1) The beginner level
It is a foundational stage towards a clearer mind. It is being honest, kind, sincere and modest. It is when one is fully aware of one’s behaviour, attitude and thoughts and constantly strives to cleanse oneself of false pride, arrogance, ego, and selfishness. At this state of consciousness one sees life as an opportunity to improve oneself and add value to others lives, and goes about just doing that. This form of humility is often reflected in people who have a grateful and helpful nature. Even if they run a business, it is with the intent to offer products or services of value to other people.

(2) The intermediate level
It is a broad and purer state of mind. It is obtaining genuine satisfaction and contentment in doing, being, and serving. It is when one is free from any kind of expectations and rewards, and is not seeking any form of acknowledgement and honour. At this stage, one views one's contribution as insignificant, compared to all one has received from others and from forces higher than one. In fact it is living with the awareness that every good thing one does or acquires is not really due to ones efforts or merits but a blessing from source that is greater than what one is aware of. It is reflected in people who possess a truly compassionate and peaceful nature. They help not because they think they are superior to others and feel pity on them, but because they tend to genuinely think of others well-being more. They look outward with the eyes of empathy and a focus on serving.

(3) The advanced level
It is an open and non-judgemental state of mind where one understands all as one and therefore that person is not an individual but a tiny drop, which after coalescing with countless drops forms a vast ocean. This ocean stretches from the world we know and senses we are receptive to, all the way to other dimensions and levels of existence and perhaps sensory experiences unrevealed to us. It is the ultimate state of being in unity with all, beyond seeking peace, when one is present in a state of void and behaves like a witness to all without indulging into the senses. It is reflected in people who see themselves indifferent to everyone and everything around. They are untouched by happiness or sorrow, success or failure, attachments and emotions (anger, offence, criticism etc.) Do such people exist? I think they do!

My insights:
One thing clear to me from these three levels is that humility is not about showing, feeling, sensing, emoting, and or perceiving. It is when the mind is in a neutral state and the person is open to their soul and to the universal mind, humility is born within. It reveals itself to others through an unswerving modest nature and kind gesture of a humble person. Although such a person usually carries themselves in a simple and subtle manner, their presence is felt as larger than life to the rest. Such people don’t necessarily commence a big mission or launch a world-wide movement; rather, they begin their journey with little steps. However, the effect of their pure intention and action do create positive ripples in the universe. Whether their work is reported, publicised, weighed, and acknowledged or not, these humans always end up making a huge positive impact to the lives of many. The contribution they make is incomparable. Not only do they bring about a positive shift in the universe, but in the process they unintentionally elevate themselves to another level – they unlock the doors to the house of great wisdom.

How much of humility can we develop?
We can’t force ourselves to achieve this state of mind and presence. Nonetheless, let’s be mindful that though our hearts may be temporarily polluted by internal delusion and our rational mind may be somewhat entangled in webs of external debris, yet our soul remains pure and our purpose to develop it remains firm. Once we accept that there is no room for pride and arrogance in our humble soul, a shift begins within. No matter what approach we take, it has to be executed by us individually, no one else can live our life for us and enhance the qualities that each of us possesses. By taking personal accountability of our thoughts and actions, we can bring about a positive change to our lives as well as of others and progress on our spiritual journey towards humility. I caution you to use your own judgement and rationale. Hence, after reading this I don’t expect you to allow others to throw their emotional, physical and mental trash on you thinking that you would be immune to its effects. That will only bring days of misery until you can’t hold it anymore and give up on this path you wanted to walk on. Therefore, instead let’s begin by continuing to be our normal self but proceed with greater awareness. As such, let’s work on our ability to maintain our composure at times when we otherwise would have thrown a tantrum out of frustration. I understand that when you try to find your tranquillity in moments of chaos and frustration, no one may know how challenging it is for you internally. Yet as you manage this, you would know deep inside that you are one step ahead on your path, change begins from within. No matter how insignificant it may seem, know what you have gained helps heal many souls not just yours. Remember that a lot can be achieved if you set your mind to it, if you nurture it in your heart, if you give yourself a chance, and only if you dare to let it be.

Closure
I hope my thoughts on humility gives you a platform to reflect on this cherished quality and share your valuable opinion and experiences with those who matter most to you, because walking along on an unfamiliar path can at times be daunting, the more company you have the merrier it will be. May together we cultivate the heights of humility that we always envisaged for this dear world we call home, where our ancestors have walked and which we need to preserve for our future generation.

May peace, light and love be with you.

Monita.







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